Last week was challenging for me professionally and personally. I feel that I need to vent in order to let it go and move on with today.
A co-worker resigned from my office. It happens. New opportunities come every day. The rest of us were prepared to take over the work and move on. What we weren’t prepared for was a disorganized backlog that sent us into a frenzy. I understand that this can happen when a co-worker leaves. However, I’m having a hard time with it because I held this coworker in high regards. I feel personally attacked because of how they left and what was left behind. I’m being selfish, I know this. Is that so bad? Long days, no breaks, and running on fumes, laughing to keep from breaking down from the mess we had to sort through.
On top of that, I had a stomach bug. It spread through my office and my close friends. I didn’t have the luxury of taking the day off. I couldn’t do that to my team. That would’ve left only one person. So I sucked it up. I couldn’t eat anything. It wouldn’t sit right in my stomach. Nausea stayed with me for about 12 hours a day. I hadn’t gone to the gym in four days.
I was a mess mentally. My mind wanted to be productive, but my body wouldn’t let me. I finally had a conversation with my cousin who advised me to unplug. I was feeling broken. I had body aches from not being at the gym. I couldn’t eat because nausea would set in. I was fighting sleep because I felt guilty for not being productive and I couldn’t shake the hurt that I felt from my coworker who left the office in disarray.
Friday night I started to feel a little better. A friend of mine came over for a mini spa night. A little wine and nails helped take my mind off the week. Saturday I took the morning to catch up on sleep and was able to eat a little more by the afternoon. My husband and I visited with family whom we haven’t seen in awhile. By the time Sunday came around I felt like I could eat a house!
I have to remember to listen to my body. It’s been a long time since I’ve been to this point. I am no good to anyone or anything if I do not have myself together. I was fighting the urge to relax because I felt it was more important to get the jobs done.
We fight so hard to make a better life for ourselves, our families, the important people in lives… It’s important to remember to put ourselves first. If we have a breakdown or end up in the hospital, who would get it done? I’ve shared below a few things that worked for me in rejuvenating my mind and body.
Thanks for letting me vent and as always, thanks for stopping by!
Try These Tips for Relaxing
- Meditation – You hear this one a lot. Usually what follows is, I don’t know how to meditate. Don’t worry. There is no science or secret to meditating. By definition it is to engage in contemplation or reflection. That’s it. You don’t have to clear your mind and think of the ocean and envision waves all around you (even though that would be amazing to do!). I watched Dr. Sanjay Gupta recall the time he spent with the Dalai Lama and what he learned about meditation. First, even the Dalai Lama himself struggles with meditation so that should make you feel better already. Second, if you are having a particular problem, for instance in my case my day job, concentrate on that specific thing. Close your eyes. Give it a color. Actually see the issue. Watch it circle around you and then push it away. Just try it. What could it hurt?
- Engage in your Hobby – If you’ve been following my blog for a while you know that nail design is my peace. This weekend, I got a double dose of it by giving myself two manicures within 3 days!
- Unplug – This was actually harder to do than I thought. The idea came from my cousin telling me that I need to be in the moment and forget social media for a little while. It was interesting to hear this directed at me because I’m always on my husband’s case about putting down his phone. But I too, have fallen short. It took some discipline, but I put my phone on silent, grabbed some popcorn and caught up on some TV shows, reading (a hardback book) and movies.
- Love – Studies have shown that being in love releases certain chemicals in the brain that gives you that rush, adrenaline and “in love” feeling. Spend some time with your partner and relax. My hubby knew what I was going through and was there to listen, hug me and relax with me.
- Laugh – Laughter has been said to relieve physical tension and stress. We took a trip to our cousin’s house and spent the evening catching up, telling stories, making jokes and of course eating great food!